©July 2011 by Fabienne Lopez
The Merriam-Webster dictionary denotes Lust as an intense sexual desire or appetite.
From the definition above, one would consider this sin innocuous in the dating scene. What is wrong with being sexually active while looking for Love?
Indulging in one-night stands and/or having a “friend with benefits” without the emotional component renders the task of recognizing when someone is right for you more difficult. Lust and Love are often mistaken one for the other at the beginning of a relationship. Intimacy becomes a challenge, sharing feelings an obstacle.
In dating, this transgression has two principal consequences:
1) We deny our more fragile side, never allowing ourselves to expose failures, errors, and struggles and;
2) Avoid emotional growth and intimacy.
Lust focuses on the “here and now” and the overwhelm need for immediate satisfaction. You do not show much interest in the person as a whole and do not care how their day went, what their favorite song, movie or food is. You would rather devote energy to having a good time.
Relationships, on the other hand, demand dedication, and effort to develop and produce results. They require long-term goals, commitment, nurturing to grow. It is a labor of love.
Lust and dating are not at opposite sides of the spectrum, however. They are more like “kissing cousins.”
Both are necessary to develop your relationship. At the same time, you need to build love/commitment to keep the two of you on the path when road bumps hit the relation.
Lust, Intimacy and Venus
Astrology has long recognized the intricate connection between lustfulness, passion, and love, all expressions of Venus. By looking at the sign, house position, and aspects of this planet in your chart, you understand how to develop genuine intimacy with others.
When physically attracted to someone, it is natural to believe as though you are already beginning to fall in love. The passion flowing between the partners does not mean, however, they are suited for each other. Attraction and compatibility are two separate items in a relationship. Physical intimacy without the accompanying emotional bonding endangers the chances for a future commitment.
Lust diminishes our capacity to recognize our and others openness for love and attachment. On the other hand, Venus can help us discover our most important values, the ones that bring Mr. Right closer to us.
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