©March 2011 by Fabienne Lopez
Uranus in Aries: Unavoidable changes!
It is official. Uranus has started its 7 years sojourn in Aries where it will bring sudden, unexpected changes in the area of your life where it falls.
You might already feel these changes taking place, especially if you have personal planets (Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars, and Mercury) and/or Ascendants in the early degrees (0° to 4°) of cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra and Capricorn).
Changes that seemed an impossible feat or you had only dreamed of implementing one day are happening. Circumstances are forcing you to do something you had never done before. An opportunity suddenly knocks on your door that requires you to change the way you do things. It does not matter!
The fact remains you are facing major changes in your life, whether you actively pursued them or they were forced upon you and you have trouble adjusting to them.
Why is change so hard?
Change is hard.” “People hate change.” Those are two of the most common quotes regarding change.
The statements are misleading. Otherwise, people would not get married or, have kids, two of the most important changes one can make in life.
Then, one must ask oneself why do some huge changes, like marriage, come easily, while some trivial changes, like changing a habit, meet fierce resistance?
It’s the emotional system!
Research discovered that humans have two separate “systems” in their brains—a rational and an emotional one.
When these two systems are in sync, change can come quickly and easily (as in getting married). When they’re not, change can be grueling.
In those situations where change is hard, how do you deal with the emotional upheaval those changes have created?
Here are ways that can help you deal with change and uncertainty:
4 Strategies to deal with change
Take time to recoup
If you have faced big changes, you need time to sort through them and adjust emotionally to your new circumstances. It is also important to allow yourself to work through the emotions awakened by the change that you’re experiencing.
Give yourself some time to adapt, especially if you are experiencing feelings of sadness and grief over something that used to be a major part of your life and is no more.
Getting closure will help you move forward. Grief counselors often suggest an ending ceremony of some sort to help you bridge the gap between the past and the present.
Understand the change
Change very often is accompanied by a fear of the unknown. We don’t know what to expect or understand what is happening or why and how it will affect us. Take time to educate yourself on all of the details of the change. Taking action will give you a sense of control over the changes you are facing. Talking to others who have faced similar changes can also help you prepare for what’s ahead.
Talking to others has also another advantage it can help you reframe the meaning of the change and allow you to deal better with the situation.
Bridge the change with familiar things and people
The unfamiliarity of change can be scary. Temper your fear; surround yourself with people or things that are familiar to you. They will act as a bridge between the old and the new life.
Similarly, participating in activities that enable you to regain a sense of control over your life, at least some parts, can help bridge the transition.
Join a support group
Sharing your story with people that have faced similar circumstances can help you better accept the changes you are trying to cope with.
My own experience
All these techniques have helped me dealing with the changes brought on by Uranus brief stint in Aries in the summer of 2010. Of course, the change came as a complete surprise, totally out of the blue. My life has taken on a new direction that has yet to be completed. In the meantime, change is hard. Emotionally, I am happy with it. In practical and financial terms, it has been extremely difficult to bear with no end in sight, at least not until Saturn goes direct.
As an Aries, the waiting for the situation itself to be resolved is “killing” me.
The situation reminds me of the last time Uranus created some upheaval in my life. The pattern was the same. The end result was worth it, as I accomplished one of my cherished dreams.
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